We all are so eager to get into a relationship that we sideline the necessary things. Getting into a relationship can be enticing, but you need much more than love to sustain it. Yes, there is no manual to a successful relationship; however, you must know these things before getting into one.
1. Be friends first
It would be best to have a solid foundation for your relationship; hence, you have to know your partner outside the relationship thing. You should know that being friends first gives you two enough time to get to know one another and form a trusting relationship. Even more, by starting with a solid friendship bond, the two of you are getting comfortable with one another and can rely on each other. How do you feel comfortable diving into a relationship without knowing your partner? Believe me; you are heading down the heartbreak route again.
2. Work on yourself
We live in a generation where we believe our significant other would make us grow. I’m not disputing that, however; you do the major part of the work yourself. You have to grow as an individual before you get into a relationship, not to lose yourself. All you should expect from your partner is their support. Nothing more, nor less.
3. Accept yourself
A lot of folks in relationships now are so broken and still bleed from hurts from their past. Some from broken homes, manipulative friendships, hurts from a past relationship(s), etc. You should know that you must not get into a relationship without healing and accepting yourself. Accept you are growing and healing.
Many of us do not know that no one would accept you if you do not accept yourself first. If you do not love yourself, I doubt if you can love another human.
4. Have a life outside your relationship
I still wonder how a large number of people cope without building a dependent life outside their relationship. You build so much around him/her that you lose friends. Life is much more than this. I know you share a strong bond; however, you need friends, acquaintances, colleagues, etc., to grow. In short, you need people to grow in life, not just your partner hence the need to build something outside your love life. Know and accept this now, or you would learn the hard way.
5. Be open
It quite easy and perfect if you make your flaws known to your partner at the beginning of your relationship. Be truthful; let them know who you are. Your relationship would sink if you ever build it on lies because nothing is more heartbreaking than your partner discovering the truth about you from a third party. This breaks truth, bond, and even water down love.
Be open to them.
No one is too busy to create time for who they love. Create time and spend time with each other
You see, those relationships you envy out there are all built on communication. Things would always fall apart if you are not willing to talk things through with your partner.
Do you have a problem with them? Communicate!
Do you want anything? Communicate!
Don’t assume your partner knows about everything you expect in a relationship. Let him/her know. A relationship should be based on communication, not on the assumption.
P.S: Love is a beautiful thing but needs you both to make it work.